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Jimmy Buffett, My Dad, and Florida Road Trips

A man in glasses and a woman in glasses. They are father and daughter, down by the water, like in the Jimmy Buffett song

Jimmy Buffett died last night.

This isn’t a post about that, not really.

While I’ll miss hearing new music from him, I don’t mourn him. I didn’t know him; I have no illusions that I had a clue about the man behind the legend. Few similarities exist between the Gulf and Western icon father and my own dad, but I feel a heartbreaking kinship of mourning with his daughters.

A few weeks ago, my dad died unexpectedly.

I have a lot of wonderful memories of my father. His death was so unexpected, and still so raw, that those memories still assault me at odd times. Grief is like, my friend Tamara says, a ball banging around inside a box. Sometimes it slams into the side of the box, and other times, it doesn’t, and you never know what it’s going to be.

In Backroads of Paradise, I wrote about my earliest experience with Florida’s salt water, with my dad, as we made our way to what would be our forever home in Clearwater:

“Look at that, Cath,” my dad said, his voice reverent. “Look at how clear it is, not like Staten Island at all.” My father still made the sign of the cross on himself when we passed Catholic churches, but not until this moment had I heard such hushed worship in his voice.

I nodded and peered out the window, feeling something new and familiar inside my chest as I gazed at the sandy landscape offering itself to me. I recognized this, much later, as the sense of coming to where I needed to be.

I figure today y’all will see a lot of “Margaritaville” tributes to Jimmy Buffett on social media, but I never had much use for that song. I’ve always been a bigger fan of his B-sides (so much so I wrote this review about his concert a few years ago.)

One song in particular, “Delaney Talks to Statues” has a special place in my heart. Since the day I first heard it, made me think of every wonderful thing about my dad.

Father, daughter/Down by the water

We moved to Florida when I was 7. I loved going to the beach with my dad. Some weekend mornings, we’d get up early and go to Clearwater Beach. Early mornings at the beach — before the crowds — is when you might find shells. I still have some of those shells we collected down by the water so many years ago.

Shells sink, dreams float

There’s a lot more to say about my dad — a lot that doesn’t have anything at all to do with Jimmy Buffett — but one giant takeaway is that he instilled in me a love of road trips.

Shortly after we moved to Florida, my dad had surgery, and he couldn’t work for a few months. Once he recovered enough to drive, though, we’d go on long drives and talk.

This continued for years. As an angsty teen, I’d go for drives with him, and he’d let me talk. He always treated me like an adult in those conversations, those wonderful, rambling conversations that unfolded and went in different directions, much as the roadways we traveled. We never set out with a destination; we simply drove and talked, talked and drove. I saw a lot of Florida’s central west coast on those drives with my father. I remember a lot of trees on those drives, and a lot of love.

Life’s good on our boat

While I won’t paint everything as sunshine and roses in our home growing up — I hate how people deify the dead — I will say that yes, overall, life was good on our (metaphorical) boat. I had two parents who loved each other, loved me, and made sure I knew it. We didn’t have lots of money for big cross-country or international vacations, but we took road trips. My mom and dad both embraced Florida life, never once looking backwards to what they’d left behind in New York. I credit them both with a lot: Instilling in me a love for Florida, for facing life head-on, even when it hurts to do so, and for all the good parts of me.

The Captain and The Kid

My dad and I had a wonderful relationship. Oh, sure, we fought. More than once he left my home in a fit of anger, but he always came back, and there was always a hug and “I love you” after the fight. There’s not a day I’ve been alive when I ever doubted my father’s love.

And in my memories, my love for Florida is tangled up with my parents and their love for it. My passion for road trips is forever linked to those drives I’d take with my dad.

The last drive we took was in 2019, shortly after I’d left full-time work at a local alt weekly. We drove south over the Skyway, out to Anna Maria (another beach we’d visited as a family when I was younger). We drove as far south as we could along the barrier islands, then turned around and headed north along US 41.

That would be our last road trip together.

My dad and I talked about when we could go again, but then… the pandemic came. After that, my dad had some health issues that made longer road trips unpleasant for him. Finally, a few weeks ago, when he was the healthiest he’d been in decades and at the cusp of being able to take a longer drive with me once more, a freak set of circumstances meant we’d never take a road trip together again.

And so this morning when my husband read me the news of Jimmy Buffett’s death, my first thought was of my father — and then of Buffett’s daughters. Because I didn’t know the man, but I knew a man a lot like the man who sang about his daughters.

And so I close with this thought from another Jimmy Buffett song I love; one that also evokes images of my dad, and also my grandfathers: And though I cried, I was so proud/To love a man so rare.

My talk with Miami Beach Mayor — and gubernatorial candidate — Philip Levine

La vida playa. Why would the mayor leave?

OK, so Philip Levine hasn’t technically announced his candidacy yet, but he’s definitely more active, state-wide, then most mayors. I’m pretty sure he isn’t traveling the state because life is simply too hard or boring or cold in Miami Beach, but hey, I’ve been wrong before.

A few months back, my buddy Craig Pittman (sign up for his weekly email of Florida-stuffsresponded to an email suggesting Mayor Levine could find better reading than T.D. Allman’s widely-discredited and admittedly poor-researched Finding Florida. In that email, Craig included my book — Backroads of Paradise — as one the Mayor should read.

Mayor Levine decided he wanted to talk to me, so he arranged for a radio interview. He listened more than he talked, which was not what I expected.

Will I vote for him? Folks, honestly, I’m voting for whichever Democrat will have the best chance beating the conservatives who’ve raped our amazing, achingly beautiful state. Anything less is a vanity vote. But you do you — go ahead and take a listen.



Wild Florida

Cedar Key
Wild Florida is always waiting to reclaim what we’ve built.

Download the Wild Florida pdf here.

From time to time I teach at Eckerd College as part of their OLLI program. It’s a not-for-credit program geared towards adults. One of the things I enjoy the most about OLLI is that my “students” want to be there; they aren’t there for a degree or a grade. They choose which classes they want to take based solely on what piques their interest, not because they’re trying to graduate. These classes are supposed be fun for them, and so the people who come to my classes either love Florida as much as I do or they want to learn more about Florida, which makes the classes fun for me (not that they aren’t fun already because, hey, I’m getting paid to talk about Florida, which is my favorite subject ever). Creating these courses also gives me an excuse to do more research about parts of Florida that catch my attention (Here’s a link to the summer courses at OLLI).

This week I’ll give a 90-minute talk called Wild Florida. I’m in love with the wild bits of Florida, which is more of it than you’d think. Working on the materials for this class gave me an idea for a book, and, hopefully, my editor will agree. The idea for the book and the idea for the course come from the same place: When I speak at OLLI, so many of the people who attend are not Florida natives and they absolutely delight in learning about the state — not only the weird stuff, which really isn’t what I do anyway, but the wonderful. The spectacular. And so I created this class to give people more insight into exactly how spectacular wild Florida is. One example is Archbold Station, one of the last bastions of safety for the scrub jay, the indigo snake and others. And if you want to know more, well, hey, you’ll have to come to one of my lectures or buy my next book. Until then, here’s a cool little movie a bunch of Florida kids made about the scrub jay.